Sarah Viliamu - Mums deserve to be a priority!

For those in our community who are not familiar with you, how would you describe what you share on your IG account?

I share life's real moments. The highlights, the lowlights and all those in between. I’m passionate about encouraging other women to love themselves unapologetically. Since becoming a Mum I’ve also been passionate about sharing all things motherhood and ensuring all Mum’s around the world know they aren’t alone.

How did it start and since becoming a mother do you feel even more compelled to share what you do?

For the majority of my life I struggled with poor body image. From such a young age I remember thinking life would be better if I looked differently. A key changing point in my life was a few years ago when I entered a modeling competition that truly promoted diversity. I didn’t win but it really was the turning point for me to realise that I am beautiful as I am, I am worthy as I am and I always have been. I started practicing self love and pulling myself up when I spoke negatively about myself. I unfollowed any accounts that made me feel bad about myself and started following people who were uplifting, really promoted diversity, inclusivity and self love.

Seeing how much following relatable and encouraging people helped myself and others, made me eager to also share. If there was just one person who felt less alone or loved themselves a bit more because of something they saw me share, then it was worth it! Since becoming a Mum I’ve certainly felt even more eager to share all things motherhood and be a friend in need to any Mum around the world when they need it.

What changes have you noticed in your body since becoming pregnant/birthing a baby?

It’s true what they say, nothing really prepares you for giving birth and becoming a Mum. I now have new stretch marks and the linea nigra line on my tummy that came with growing my baby hasn’t really faded. My son is now 5 months old and I’m still predominantly breastfeeding. Our breastfeeding journey has been mainly successful however it certainly takes lots of energy from my body and I have experienced the pain of a blocked duct which is the worst!

Do you get many keyboard warriors?

Fortunately the community of people that follow me are really supportive and encouraging. I rarely receive negative comments or hate but it does happen from time to time.

How have you come to truly and genuinely be comfortable in your own skin?

I truly believe consistent practice of self love is the key to loving the skin you’re in, and is how I have come to love and be proud of my body! So my first tip would be:

  1. Incorporate self love into everyday. Self love is different for everyone so don’t worry about what anyone else is doing, do what feels good for you. It could be journaling, going for a walk, meditating or enjoying a hot cuppa alone.

  2. Self talk is so important, so make a conscious effort to pull yourself up when you make a negative comment about yourself or begin to doubt yourself.

  3. Train your brain! We really are creatures of habit and so the more love we show ourselves the more love we’ll sit in and radiate. Try picking positive affirmations that relate to parts of yourself that you struggle with, then commit to repeating them out loud daily.

Has your fiance ever asked you to stop posting photos?

For most of the photos I share my fiance is actually the man behind the camera. He is extremely supportive of everything I do and is always the first person to remind me of my purpose and the people I’m helping, if I ever start to doubt myself.

Who is Sarah outside of Mum?

Like so many other mama’s I too am a partner, daughter, sister, friend and love spending time with family and friends. I’m currently on maternity leave from my full time job as an Operations Manager for a global Customer Experience organisation.

My fiance and I also run our own small business called Bold Statement Events. We’re based in Melbourne East and specialise in hiring statement pieces for all occasions. I’m currently working on a big, new and exciting project that I’ll be sharing in the months to come.

I’m also a big adventurer and have been fortunate to travel many places around the world (pre covid life) so look forward to travelling more when we can! The first place on the agenda is Samoa, the most beautiful tropical island where my Dad is from, so I can take my baby to meet his family.

What is something about being a Mum that drives you bonkers?

The Mum guilt can be so frustrating! Often questioning in the back of your mind if you’ve done enough, played enough or could have done better that day. I always try to remind myself however the day panned out, that I am a good Mum and that I matter too!

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